Hypnosis for Rhode Island and South Eastern Massachusetts LGBTQ Communities
Over my 17 years in practice I have helped many people who identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender or just plain sexually unique achieve their goals through hypnosis and hypnotic coaching. Sometimes I know their sexual identity: sometimes I don’t. I never ask – though you are welcome to disclose if you feel your orientation is related to your issue.
But I think it may be important for you to know
that my hypnotic coaching practice is a judgement free zone.
People who identify as LGBTQ come to hypnosis for the exactly same reasons as anyone: quitting smoking, losing weight, handling stress, dealing with difficult relationships, study skills, career help, confidence, pain management, habit change (including alcohol, drug use as well as nail biting, procrastination, etc), handling fears such as flying, driving and heights. For most issues I work with sexual orientation is completely irrelevant and, frankly, none of my business.
Beyond these I have gained an understanding over the years of the special challenges LGBTQ people face in daily life:
- Dealing with family, employers and friends who may not accept or understand that being LGBT or Q is not a choice, but simply an expression of who you are.
- Self-acceptance despite a mainstream (“straight” culture) that is still wrapping its head around the idea that some people simply don’t fit into that mold.
- Coping with outright prejudice.
I have helped LGBTQ people use hypnosis and the power of the subconscious mind to get over the loss of partners, come out to family and go through transition and gender re-assignment.
I don’t claim to specialize in LGBTQ issues, just want to assure you of a safe and welcoming place to work on whatever issue you want to change in your life through
The Story of the Captain
Who Lost Control of Her Ship
And how you can get your life back on course with hypnosis
A sea captain decided she (or he) would sail north. The crew had other ideas. They thought south sounded better. The ship headed south. The captain complained and threatened. The ship still headed south. The captain took out a shotgun. The ship turned north until the captain fell asleep. Then south again.
This is called a mutiny.
And it is a metaphor for how people get stuck in destructive habits like smoking cigarettes; overeating; not exercising; alcohol, drug, gambling, sex or shopping addiction; or pure procrastination.
The captain is your conscious mind. The crew is your subconscious.
You (the captain) may say today is the day I will change. Your subconscious mind (the crew) says no. Maybe tomorrow. This happens day after day. You become disheartened. You think self-defeating thoughts like “I can’t stop smoking, lose weight, stop drinking, etc.” Maybe you even give up. The crew runs the ship. Eventually it runs the ship aground.
So, feeling out-of-control?
How do you change?
You can’t bully yourself into change. Anyone who has dieted only to gain the weight back, tried to quit smoking a hundred times only to fail, or wrestled unsuccessfully with any personal demon knows this very well. A personal transformation is needed. This is something far different from trying harder. This requires pulling the ship into a port, firing the mutinous crew and getting a whole new crew on board.
This is what you must do to get your life under control. And there are several ways you can do this. One is known as “bottoming out”. A man has a heart attack and never smokes again. The doctors warns that her patient must lower cholesterol or risk serious illness and suddenly she can lose weight. A drinker’s spouse threatens to leave him or her and this time the drinker hears it and seeks help.
But these “miracles” are as unpredictable as lightening. Waiting for “the right moment” to change is never a good idea. Instead, there are techniques that can help you jump start the process and gain control. Hypnosis is one of them.
Hypnosis begins by clearing out your resistance to change. Then a new series of beliefs, attitudes, even created memories are inserted in their place. You become a non-smoker, someone who eats healthy or exercises, someone who gets things done.
The change is a transformation, not more of the same attempts to try harder followed by demoralizing defeats.
Out-of-control to In-control
Think of your hypnotist as a psychic personnel agent. He or she will help you get your crew to understand you really are the captain and it is your ship. Because when you and the crew (conscious and subconscious minds) are pulling together anything is possible.
The question now is which way do you really want to go?
It arrived in the guise of a French mesmerist named Charles Poyen. Monsieur Poyen’s first experienced Mesmer’s new therapy as a patient. He became a zealous promoter of what he referred to as “magnetizing” and a gifted practitioner of the art.
After immigrating to the USA, Poyen settled in Providence, Rhode Island in 1837 where he became an overnight sensation. His supporters included pillars of society such as Francis Wayland, president of Brown University as well as members of Rhode Island’s medical and academic communities.
He demonstrated remarkable healings of both physical and mental ailments in a series of lectures throughout New England as well as in Rhode Island. And, he trained new magnetizers who formed a lasting core of practitioners in the United States. In Providence alone, it was said that over 100 people were “magnetizing” by the end of 1837.
Poyen also wrote and published a small book called Progress of Animal Magnetism in New England, which explained his version of the Mesmer technique in simple language. And he even managed to start a new magazine, THE PSYCHODINAMIST or Bulletin of Animal Magnetizers in the United States, printed at Cranston and Company. He pledged that the publication would be open to “impartial discussion of all opinions from all parties viz.: doubters and unbelievers” and make the latest European developments available in the US.
A reporter’s observations give us a sense of the local acceptance Poyen enjoyed. The reporter wrote in October 23, 1837’s edition of the Providence Journal Bulletin “We do not pretend to be total converts to the cause, but will say that the exhibitions we have witnessed have not only surprised but astonished us…and if the science is a Humbug as some claim we can only say that we have witnessed experiments with some of the most scientific men in our country –who all expressed themselves as entirely satisfied that there was no deception in what they witnessed.”
Unfortunately, despite his successes, Poyen, like Mesmer before him, seemed to be a man ahead of his time.
New England of 1837 just wasn’t ready for miraculous healing, mysterious magnetic forces and claims of paranormal abilities such as telepathy and clairvoyance. His very success lead to his rapid downfall. Poyen quickly became the target of attacks by conservative clergy. Congregation members who practiced “magnetizing” were expelled from the congregation. Under pressure from the pulpits, medical societies began warning their members against being publicly identified with mesmerism.
Pressure also came from outside Rhode Island. A columnist from the New York Journal of Commerce pulled few punches when he wrote “The learned Doctors of Divinity and Medicine in Providence have been gulled beyond endurance…the women are imposters and the men merely fools.”
Under a cloud of controversy, Charles Poyen returned to France where he died in 1844.
Today, hypnosis is once again a vital, growing part of the Rhode Island health and human development scene. Professional golfers and tennis players use hypnotherapy to sharpen their skills and improve concentration. Patients use hypnosis to ease pre- operation anxiety and speed post-operative recovery. Forensic hypnosis helps solve crimes and bring criminals to justice.
Students and public speakers, people with phobias and pregnant women all benefit from the same kind of remarkable results that so wowed Providence of the 1830s. And yes, hypnosis helps thousands of people each year quit smoking and lose weight.
Take a deep breath. Relax. And get ready for a very enjoyable adventure: your journey into self-hypnosis.
The first question most people ask is “can I really be hypnotized?”
The answer is that there is no doubt about it. The ability to enter hypnotic trance is a natural human attribute. You already move in and out of various trances several times each day.
Here are two everyday examples. One is the experience of driving on a highway lost in daydreams when you suddenly realize that you have driven past your exit as if on automatic pilot. Where were you? How about lightly hypnotized? Another is television viewing. You may never have thought of it this way. But whenever you get deeply involved in a movie you enter a light hypnotic trance. If you need convincing, observe a five-year-old glued to the TV set any Saturday morning. You’ll see a slack jawed, alert-yet-relaxed, future consumer with a vacant, “hypnotized” expression. Are we adults that different when deeply engrossed in a good movie? Of course not. We also “suspend disbelief” when watching stories on video. Day-to-day problems fade away. We are, in effect, very much in a trance.
In therapeutic hypnosis, we become entranced by a story about ourselves and our capabilities. We enter a state where we can access untapped mental resources to make changes in thought, emotion or behavior that can seem amazing, even miraculous.
Interested? I thought you might be. So, let’s get down to the technique itself. Basically, you have a choice of two approaches. Let’s call them “low- tech” and “high-tech” self-hypnosis.
Both require a hypnotic script BEFORE you start. In the “low tech” approach you mentally recite the script. The only equipment is your mind. In the high-tech variation, you tape record the script in your own voice. When you listen to it you become your own hypnotist.
I find the high-tech approach preferable, especially for beginners. Unless a professional hypnotist has trained you in self-hypnosis, trying to be both hypnotist and subject can get too confusing. Most people fail when they work alone. With the high-tech approach, you cannot fail. Even if you don’t think you are “hypnotized,” you will relax and spend time reviewing your goals. That alone has benefit. Plus, you can listen to your tapes over and over again adding the power of repetition.
When should you use self-hypnosis? Just about anytime a more positive attitude could make a difference. Use it to increase confidence or concentration, improve memory, reduce stress or pump-up motivation for your exercise program. Like any skill, the more experience you have, the better you become. Eventually you may want to tackle more complex issues. But it is best to start simple. Hypnosis is generally recognized as a VERY SAFE practice. However, if you try to use it for the wrong purpose, you could aggravate existing conditions: at the least you’ll be ignoring proper medical treatment. So, please don’t try to be your own psychotherapist or physician. By the way, mixing recreational drugs and self-hypnosis is never a good idea.
You can use the script I provide in this article to get started. Or write your own. Read it into a tape recorder in a slow, confident style. Play it back and listen with the intention of experiencing hypnosis. At first you may have to “pretend” to go into trance. Soon you will feel a shift as you enter a true hypnotic state. Be patient. Sometimes benefits come quickly. But just as often they build over time.
The Self-Hypnosis Script
A hypnotic script consists of three parts. First is the induction. This is the “patter” that guides the subject (you in this case) into trance. The treatment section follows as you program the new ideas, beliefs, emotions and possibilities you wish to acquire. Express your suggestions in a simple, positive statement. “I now enjoy eating healthy foods” is far preferable to “Donuts will make me want to vomit.” Then emergence . This is a fancy term for “wake yourself up.” And, emerging from hypnosis is as easy as deciding you have had enough of a TV show and using the clicker to turn the box off.
Here is a simple script to start you off. Record it in a slow, confident voice. Then get yourself comfortable. Sit or lie down. Turn off the phone. Make sure you will be undisturbed for 20 minutes or so. Put on headphones. And listen to the sound of your voice…
Induction: Fix your eyes on a spot a little higher than eye level. And let yourself relax. As I count from 100 downwards I want and expect my body to become very relaxed and my eyes very, very heavy. Because as I count backwards I will open my eyes on even numbers like 100 and close them on odd numbers like 99. This makes my eyes very tired and soon I don’t feel like opening them anymore. This occurs by the time I get to 80 or sooner. I then fall into a very deep trance and envision lying on a beautiful beach on a perfect beach day.
(MENTALLY COUNT VERY SLOWLY REPEATING “RELAX JUST RELAX” AFTER EACH NUMBER: 100, 99, 98,97,96, 95, 94, 93, 92, 91, 90, 89, 88, 87, 86, 85, 84, 83, 82, 81, 80).
Now I close my eyes and keep them closed. I imagine I am at a beautiful beach. It is a sunny day. I am by the water lying near the surf. I continue counting backwards. When I reach 60 I imagine myself walking to the edge of the water writing DEEP ASLEEP in the sand. Then I see the surf come in and wash the words away. When they are gone, I imagine myself deeply hypnotized, my mind open to new positive ideas, behaviors and emotions. 60 I am writing DEEP ASLEEP in the moist sand. The words are gone and I am deep asleep, yet alert to the sounds of my own voice.
(MENTALLY COUNT VERY SLOWLY REPEATING “RELAX EVEN DEEPER” AFTER EACH NUMBER 79, 78, 77, 76, 75, 74, 73, 72, 71, 70, 69, 68, 67, 66, 65, 64, 63, 62, 61, 60.THEN PAUSE FOR 60 SECONDS)
Treatment (REPEAT SEVERAL TIMES) I am now open to change. I give myself the command that I am able to enter hypnosis more easily and deeply listening to this tape each time I hear it. (FOR FUTURE TAPES YOU’LL WANT TO INSERT OTHER COMMANDS HERE SUCH AS “I ENJOY HEALTHY FOODS.” OR “I NOW LOVE TO EXERCISE”).
Emergence: As I count up from 1 to 5, I awaken alert and refreshed. 1 Easily, and Slowly Returning, 2 Feeling Wonderful, 3 Alert, Refreshed, 4. Knowing I am getting better and better everyday, 5 I open my eyes and return to normal consciousness FEELING GREAT.
That’s it. No magick other than the limitless marvel known as the human mind. You might ask why spend money on a professional hypnotherapist? The short answer is that when you visit me you get the benefit of knowledge of the hypnotic state and treatment options. You also can expect a much deeper, more powerful experience resulting in faster improvement and superior results. Like more information? Then come in for a free introductory 15 minute consultation.
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